Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Follow Your Fear

 "The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it... The more fear we feel about a specific enterprise, the more certain we can be that enterprise is important to us and the growth of our soul. " 
- Steven Pressfield of  The War of Art

Marie Forleo is one of those amazing women that I follow and emulate as much as I possibly can (aside from Oprah). And in her Tuesday's Marie TV episode she talked about following our fears.  

By fear, it means the good kind of fear that we know once we overcome, will change our life for the better. It's the directive kind of fear like an idea of doing something that we've always wanted to do. Something that the deeper and wiser part of us wants so damn bad! Not the kind that will have us get run over by a bus, lol!
Come to think of it, when I look back on my life, a lot of the things I did in order to follow my bliss was I followed my fear first. Again, by fear, Marie and I both mean something that can make us doubt ourselves and our capabilities but once we do it, will bring us tremendous joy. Let me give you mine... 

Wednesday, February 24, 2016

How to Say No When People Ask for Money (and why I don't and never will lend money to family and friends)

This has been happening A LOT more than usual. I know it's because of all my shout outs about getting rewarded 500+ grams of gold equivalent to earning my first million via the rewards program of Global Intergold and all the blessings I've been getting (recently I bought some very expensive gifts for my 38th birthday which I think I deserve and I shouldn't feel guilty about) but that doesn't mean that I set aside budget to loan people (both strangers and friends) money. I joined Global Intergold in the first place because I have a huge loans to pay off and I needed big money too for my annulment. We all know annulment doesn't come cheap in the Philippines. 

So why don't I loan people money? 

Friday, January 8, 2016

Happiness Makes Dreams Come True (Law of Attraction at Work)

2016 First Week Check

Hi! How's your first week of the new year so far? Have you already accomplished some of the goals you've set up for yourself? If not yet, are you at the beginning stages now of making your 2016 dreams come true? I hope, yes! And if not, I hope you're on your way there. 

It's been a year since I last posted here and that last post I did was about Productivity. And boy, have I been the most productive I have ever been in my entire life last year! I produced my first million pesos from joining the rewards program of Global Intergold, produced a ton of photos from all the travels bebeko Hanz and I did and we produced a baby! If that is not being productive then I don't know what is. Just read my blog posts about them here: 

Anyway, going back to the my first week of 2016, for me, aside from being at my wits end sometimes from taking care of our 7-week old colic baby (hihihi), I'd like to think that the first 7 days of my 2016 have gone by smoothly and as planned. Here's what happened:

Friday, January 16, 2015

How to Have Higher Productivity

As I've mentioned on my New Year post on Sexy Nomad (which is my personal and travel blog), I'm on a mission to change myself for the better. This applies not just in my love life but in all aspects of my life in general. Actually, improving myself has always been one of the major driving forces why I do the things I do each and every day. It's the reason why I took up Psychology back in college, why I like reading about self-help stuff, why I've set up this self-help blog in the first place. However, one thing that I keep noticing all these years when it comes to wanting to achieve bigger things in my life is that I easily get distracted with seemingly important matters at hand and before I know it, another year has passed and my life has once again been filled with doing exciting and  urgent stuff that don't really bring me the kind of value that I want nor pay me huge dividends in the long run.

This year, I plan to change that and become more productive. So over the holidays, I've subscribed to a couple of free coaching programs which I think will help me get the productivity level I want in my life. I'd like to share with you some productivity tips that I've learned from Eben Pagen. It's all about the willpower of habits and how they can work for us. You can watch his video here and download his worksheets as well or you can keep reading this blog post first.

Do you know that we only have a little willpower during the day and we tend to use it up taking care of urgent matters and other distractions? And before we know it, we've already neglected the things that really matter like our health, our relationships, developing our business, or whatever it is that we deem important.

So how can we put to better use our willpower of habits? Below are some amazing tips:

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Be Proactive: 1st of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Perhaps it's that time of the month, or maybe because there were a few days I missed taking my pills on time, or most probably because someone I used to love just declared she doesn't like me and has been "plastic" all this time around me... these  have been making me feel the blues a lot more severely than usual. Just when everything else outside of me is great (I have someone who loves me very, very much, my savings in my bank account is growing, I am a lot healthier than a few months ago, I am living my dream lifestyle, I have a steady stream of worthy things to do) I don't understand why I am once again feeling so discontent and hopeless (the very same things that most probably contributed to the demise of my last relationship which I don't want to happen in my current one)

Everyday, the last week, has just been one miserable internal experience after another. I only see the bad and the negative in my situation and it was driving me crazy inside. I was feeling so rejected and insecure that I began doubting myself thinking that maybe that person who rejected me was right. Maybe I am worthless. ...What's up with me? Why am I making this person hurt and affect me so much? My eyes have been swollen from constantly crying and I have been going out of my mind. 

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Don't Make Plans, Make Options

I like making plans. I like listing down things, scheduling stuff to do, and making things happen according to how I envisioned things to be. Perhaps it's the traveler in me coupled with my OC (obsessive-compulsive) tendency... I like to know where I'm going and when to go to where I'm going. I am this way because I like to prepare  myself for what's to come. But you know what, life is so unpredictable. Things that you didn't expect, not even in your wildest dreams nor your scariest nightmares  do happen and when they do, you're left emotionally and mentally paralyzed. You can't think straight, you can't breathe, you experience panic attacks like never before...  In short, your world comes tumbling down and you have no clue what to do next. 

In order to avoid this kind of scenario from happening (again), it is best to make options. If this was money we're talking about, I'd say, don't put your eggs in one basket. Invest in stocks, mutual funds, time deposits, businesses, etc. Make the most of your funds and lessen the risk of losses. The same way for the things that we want to happen in our lives. Go ahead and make plans (if you're the planner kind of person) but make sure you have plenty of options to choose from should your Plan A fail to work or come to fruition. At least you still have Plan B, Plan C and so on and so forth to do next. It's like going into battle I guess. We make sure that we have a lot of ammunition to choose from to fight the different kinds of enemies we meet along the way. 

So have you done this lately? Have you made plans for something big only to realize that it's never going to happen? Isn't it better to have options instead? 

Saturday, October 4, 2014

How to Not Worry the Kicking Pinay Way

Are you a worrywart like me? As positive as I try to be now, there was a time in my life when all I did was worry. When I was a kid, I worried about finishing school. My dad was jobless and my mom was (and still is) a government employee who couldn't afford the high tuition fees of the exclusive school she wanted me to go to. Thank God for scholarships, I was able to make it.  When I was a teen, I'd worry about getting pregnant early like many of my childhood friends who ended up being knocked up at such an early age. Thank God, I was like a tomboy then and though I had a lot of male suitors, I never really had a real boyfriend until my sophomore year in college and never really engaged in sexual activities until I met my first husband. And now that I'm old, I worry about not being able to bear children at all. And this is something that I try not to think about or dwell upon as much as I can.

So how not to worry?

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