Thursday, October 23, 2014

Be Proactive: 1st of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Perhaps it's that time of the month, or maybe because there were a few days I missed taking my pills on time, or most probably because someone I used to love just declared she doesn't like me and has been "plastic" all this time around me... these  have been making me feel the blues a lot more severely than usual. Just when everything else outside of me is great (I have someone who loves me very, very much, my savings in my bank account is growing, I am a lot healthier than a few months ago, I am living my dream lifestyle, I have a steady stream of worthy things to do) I don't understand why I am once again feeling so discontent and hopeless (the very same things that most probably contributed to the demise of my last relationship which I don't want to happen in my current one)

Everyday, the last week, has just been one miserable internal experience after another. I only see the bad and the negative in my situation and it was driving me crazy inside. I was feeling so rejected and insecure that I began doubting myself thinking that maybe that person who rejected me was right. Maybe I am worthless. ...What's up with me? Why am I making this person hurt and affect me so much? My eyes have been swollen from constantly crying and I have been going out of my mind. 

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Don't Make Plans, Make Options

I like making plans. I like listing down things, scheduling stuff to do, and making things happen according to how I envisioned things to be. Perhaps it's the traveler in me coupled with my OC (obsessive-compulsive) tendency... I like to know where I'm going and when to go to where I'm going. I am this way because I like to prepare  myself for what's to come. But you know what, life is so unpredictable. Things that you didn't expect, not even in your wildest dreams nor your scariest nightmares  do happen and when they do, you're left emotionally and mentally paralyzed. You can't think straight, you can't breathe, you experience panic attacks like never before...  In short, your world comes tumbling down and you have no clue what to do next. 

In order to avoid this kind of scenario from happening (again), it is best to make options. If this was money we're talking about, I'd say, don't put your eggs in one basket. Invest in stocks, mutual funds, time deposits, businesses, etc. Make the most of your funds and lessen the risk of losses. The same way for the things that we want to happen in our lives. Go ahead and make plans (if you're the planner kind of person) but make sure you have plenty of options to choose from should your Plan A fail to work or come to fruition. At least you still have Plan B, Plan C and so on and so forth to do next. It's like going into battle I guess. We make sure that we have a lot of ammunition to choose from to fight the different kinds of enemies we meet along the way. 

So have you done this lately? Have you made plans for something big only to realize that it's never going to happen? Isn't it better to have options instead? 

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